Honeychild, dear Honeychild,
This is the time of year for parties, gifts, cheer and sharing. But for many, it is the time of year for grief and loneliness. Some people are happy and eager to post to Facebook, hashtag on twitter, pose for Instagram and Snapchat. Others are dreading the holiday season in favor of thoughts of lost, despair and conflict. Whether you are in one of those categories or somewhere in between or know someone who is experiencing sadness during the holidays; be encouraged. You are not alone. You can help yourself or someone you care about to get through the season with peace and joy.Here are three thoughts to help you.
First, remember the reason for the season? Consider that it can mean different things to different people. For Christians, Jews, Buddhists and some years Muslims, there is a universal call to show love. Christians are celebrating Christmas, the birth of Christ. Jews are celebrating Chanukkah, the festival of lights commemorating the rededication of the Temple in Jerusalem. Buddhists are celebrating Bodhi Day, the day Buddha received enlightenment. On years that is coincides with December on the Gregorian calendar, Muslims are honoring the Feast of Sacrifice; Id Al Adha. Stills others are simply celebrating the Winter Solstice. At any rate, although the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas has become a season of cheer and merriment, keeping the holiday in context can help you take it in stride and understand that it is ok not participate in every gathering if you don’t feel like doing so.
On the other hand, it is also ok to join in the celebrations as a single. That brings me to thought number two. You can go celebrations alone or with another single friend. People are not, as one might think, singling you out. The Bible says that if you want friends you have to first be friendly. So go to the party and enjoy yourself. There are also many things happening during the holiday that are great enjoyed alone. It may seem awkward the first time you go out alone, but trust me, it can freeing and fun. Go the theater, the movies, skating at the rink. Take in the holiday show or a city tour of the lights around the city. You’ll find the joy of the season will make you smile whether you with others or by yourself.
Having trouble with thoughts of lost loved ones? Thought number three: Don’t try to forget about them during the season. Instead, embrace their memories; celebrate them. You can give a donation to charity in the name of your loved one. Light a candle in their memory. Write a poem or letter of remembrance. Say a prayer of thanksgiving for the time you had with your loved one. This is good even when you are grieving lost due to a break up rather than death.
You see, Honeychild… changing how you think about the holidays and what you do in response can help you see this season as an opportunity to practice the love within. And you take that right into the new year!
Scripture Reference:
Romans 12:12 ESV Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.
Empowerment link:
For Mourners: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/getting-through-holidays-advice-bereaved
For Singles: http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/a6771/holidays-alone/
